You are not a failer!

We all go through our fair share of distrust that life will work itself out, that apparently all happens for a reason.

Even I have had feelings that everything seems to be a waste of time and that it doesn’t matter how much effort you put in with your life sometimes it just seems so damn hard.

Those feelings of disappointment and those feelings of not feeling like you are good enough are widely known. But when you fight through all those negative emotions it all somehow makes sense.

There are times when we all feel like we want to give in with life and stop trying. Everyone at some point in time deals with the exact same negative self-talk. There are times when you may put up your defences and prevent people or opportunities from entering your life or heart but remember that this is the stage that it is most important that you don’t give up.

This is the part when your strength of character really shows. This is when you overcome all that fear and push aside those barriers that you allow to hold yourself back. That's right. "Allow" is the key word here. Only you hold up those barriers so therefore only you,  being yourself, and only you can choose to put your shields down.

If you do happen to quit and give in then don’t get down on yourself for quitting or giving up. You don’t need to feel shame or embarrassment or disappointment because this is not you. You have not given up completely and you never will. Know that it is ok to temporally stop trying or to have a break from giving it your all. Know that this does not make you a failure. Do not make up stories inside your mind that you’re a failure because you temporally quit or have temporally given in. You deserve more love and respect than that.

Losing sight for a few days, weeks, or months, even years does not make you a failure.  A Failure is one that quits completely and that never looks back. But hear this and really take this in. Once your mind has been opened up to the possibilities of what is possible there will be something that inspires you to try again once more. You will find something that will remind you of the path that you were once on. There will be something that sparks that excitement and enthusiasm once more in your heart. You will never forget.

You don’t need to be your own worst enemy. Be aware of your negative comments of yourself. Your negative thoughts are nothing but made up stories that you have created yourself. Yes some may have been said to your face but they are not true. Design your own new story.

Remember why you started in the first place. Remember what your passion is and carry on following your dream.

With Love

B xx