Where has your "dot to dot" led you?

Have you heard of the speech of "connecting the dots"?

(the vid is down below)

This story really resonates with me as I'm sure that it does so within you also. 

For those who are not aware, I opened my first Massage business back 2013 ish. To be honest over the years there have been so many occasions that I considered selling and moving on. As I always had this knowingness that I was meant to be teaching and coaching.

Then I heard in a Louise Hay clip that we can choose to have both. You can have both!

I am always somehow guided back and I remember why I started and what I love about my businesses.

When I look back and join up all those dots, I remember that I am passionate about providing massage. Especially to working mum's and enabling busy individuals to have a massage delivered to their door. I'm always somehow reminded that I do love my business.

I remember back to all the years that I forgot to look after myself. Well its more of the case that I didn't even know how important it was to after myself first as a Mum. That's why I do what I do now. That is why I love and stick with my massage businesses. That is how I ended up being naturally drawn to educating and teaching others about how to start their own business. To make time for themselves. And now years on to all the repeat clients that we have, they obviously love the service

So I invite you to take 5, and really ponder on where you are now. Where has your dot to dot guided you?

If you are somehow feeling lost or unclear, then remember that you are exactly where you are meant to be.

There is never a wrong path. Never question are you taking the wrong road. Some of our paths have been our best life lessons. One that you were meant to take. After all, it is just another dot and its not until that you look back that you can see the reason why.

For those who haven't seen the clip here it is

With Love, B x

You need that massage more than you think!

Hi, Bridget Jones here :-)

I have a question to ask you.

Are you one of those type of clients that only call for a massage when you are desperate for one?

I also used to be one of those. That was until I learnt the importance of receiving a regular massage. And the importance of putting oneself first.

As a massage therapist I witness on most days a client calling because they need a massage 'now'.

It is always the same story. They have had this little niggle for a while now, they have ignored the signals from their body. Then they call because they are literally desperate for muscle and pain relief.

Don't get me wrong. I used to be one of these types too. To be honest I'm still learning the art of putting oneself first and forcing myself rest time.

The thing is, is that when you are having those little niggles, this is your body giving you warning signs. Signs of "hey you need some rest". Or "hey, your body needs a massage".

Your body is always communicating with you. Its designed that way. And it is up to you to listen to the warning signs before your body starts screaming at you!

I've learnt from personal experience to book myself a regular on-going massage. I'm not saying for you too to also book a regular massage. However, when a staggering 64% of our clients are coming to us due to an ongoing pain issue. To me, that's a big enough issue to re-educate our clients.

To summarise: You do not need a reason to have a massage!

Please don't wait until you are in physical pain. Look after yourself and book in for that ongoing massage.

From listening to my clients. It is not until we lay on the table, that we realize how much we need the massage. And yes, I know this one for experience also :-)

If this is you and you know that it is time that you booked yourself in for a massage. Then call your friendly massage therapist.

Have an absolutely lovely day

Bridget Jones x

Using Affirmations

Lets talk affirmations.

I know from experience that at first they feel stupid or you feel like its a lie to say them. However they do work!

The reality is, is that you are already living a lie. Think about it. The negative crap that you tell yourself everyday is in actual fact a lie. The crap that you have made up in your head or the crap that some else has led you to believe is just a lie! Those negative thoughts in your head is the lie. 

Affirmations in actual fact are the truth about you that you have forgotten! Or may have not learnt about yourself.

When you prevent yourself from having the good in your life, or not allow yourself to follow a passion that truly makes you feel happy inside. This is denying your soul. Why do you not allow yourself to be happy? Why are you of all people not deserving of whatever it is that you want?

Can you not feel that ache inside? Do you not feel that sadness deep down inside even when you should be completely happy? 

This is your soul literally crying out. 

What are you denying yourself of? What is its that you want to do? You do know! Stop lying to yourself!

Affirmations can and do help.

When using affirmations it feels like a lie because you have been lying to yourself for so long. Please start to honor yourself and show some respect to yourself and do what your soul craves.

Allow yourself to use affirmations. They will start to feel true to you once you allow the truth to come in.

Affirmations feel great to use and calm your mind and you can literally feel them calm your body.

Some some that feel true for you. Here's some that I've used and literally all worked for me.

I am loved and radiate love!  This one bought to me my fiance. Read here for my story 

I radiate confidence and success!

My story.

Originally I started weight training to strengthen my body for running and triathlons and then decided to try a bikini contest. I loved the weight training side of things.
I then found out that there is more to just sport, it’s the mentality behind it and sometimes a coach to guide you is exactly what you need. Someone to believe in you until you believe in yourself. Someone who can see the possibilities and who can direct you along the path

I’ve been there done that. I’ve failed so many times but... I never quit. I never gave in completely. Yes temporarily I thought to myself “screw if it’s too beeping hard” but I always got back up on my feet and tried again. 
After 3 times on stage I finally won a 4th Place in Bikini Comp. Was I disappointed? 


Absolutely No! 




I still hold my head high as I know damn well I put in everything I had at that time.  I am also committed to keep trying and that is the difference.

Yes I am human and on my own personal journey and also sometimes lose focus on my goals however I am always reminded somewhere to come back. This is due to my current mindset and deep inside I have a refusal to quit! I will keep trying because at the end of the day this is my journey and I love and thrive on accomplishing small feats.
I finally learnt in my last Comp:

To never compare yourself to others, yes look for inspiration but never to compare. This your journey alone and hopefully I can show you what is possible when you learn to believe in yourself.
We are all on our own journey so who gives a flying shit what the person next to you is doing! 
Just do your best and know that it is absolutely okay if you mess up and go off your path a little. You’ll always find your way back!

With Love

B 😘

So Who Is Bridget Jones?

I am a certified Massage Therapist, Certified Master Trainer (aka Diploma Personal Trainer) Certified Coach and Trainer and love Massaging and teaching my skills so you too are able to create your own lifestyle.

Here is a little about my journey so far:

• I started as a single mum, no self income source, completed a basic 20 hour massage course which led to start my diploma which led to starting my business from scratch
• Everything I know business wise has been self taught!
• Been in the fitness/ looking after yourself industry for over 6 years
• I’ve competed in 42 km marathons, half Iron mans, the Busselton Jetty 3.8km race ( I’ve never had a DNF! ) although yes I admit I have considered quitting during races.,  INBA bikini competitions all while having family responsibilities and running my Massage and Fitness Business.
• I naturally progressed into the personal training, fitness and  the coaching industry through my personal fitness and sporting endeavours and completed my:

• Diploma of Fitness (SIS50213) - Australian Institute of Personal Trainers
• Cert IV Trainer and Assessment (TAE40110) -  I hope to inspire and train others to become the best that they can be and help them with their very own lifestyle changes.

From here I have naturally progressed onto building:

• Couple Massage Classes
• Massage & Business Coaching and
• Fitness Coaching businesses.

• I’ve spent hours learning tools and strategies and creating systems that work.
• I’ve Taught Certificate 3 and 4 in Fitness
• Teach One on One Massage Skills and Group Massage
• Coach and mentor business skills, specializing in Massage & Fitness
• Share my teachings international via blogs and webinars
• 5 Star Rated Massage Business
• Nominated and Finalist for 2018 Alcoa Peel Business Awards
• Massage Trainer, Massage Business Coach and Group Fitness mentor to create lifestyle Changes to teach my clients how to love themselves first and to create your ideal life.

I live beachside in the gorgeous Mandurah, South Perth, Australia, with my amazing supportive and loving Partner and our perfectly blended family of 9 children. So I know from experience how important it is to take time out for yourself and to either:
How do I look after myself!?

Book in that regular massage. Yes I also have my own regular 2 weekly massage.
Are you also interested in Massage or to begin your Fitness Journey?

Whether you are wanting to learn Massage for yourself or to get certified to start your own business and to work your own hours.

Or are you brave enough to jump in head first to look after your health by signing up for our Online Fitness Coaching You are here on this earth to live an amazing life and I want to help you create that life.

Whichever you are here for, to either experience one of our In-Home Massages or to receive Massage Training or to begin your fitness journey or simply enjoying having a squiz at my blog, we are so excited that you found us and can’t wait to meet you.

Thank you so much

B x

What you know already

To the most important person that really matters - you!

I’m not writing to you to help you, as I can not help you. The only person that can help you, is you.
I’m writing to you, yourself, to show you that it’s all going to be okay. That you are strong enough, that you do have more to give and that you are only ever given from the universe the life lessons that you ARE capable at handling.

You are so much more amazing than you can see and this is what I hope to show you. You do have so much to offer to the world. You do have so much to give. 

Somewhere hidden inside of you is a strength that either you are yet you find or you may have long forgotten. You will find this inner strength.

You do have more to give and you are here for bigger reasons than you know.

Have trust and full faith that you are here for bigger reasons than you are yet to know.

Evertything you want to "Be" is already within you

All those lives that you look at and wish that you could be like that or them, know that you can. Everything you see in others is 100% possible for you and to go one step further in terms of “attraction”, the very fact that you are able to see what it is that you want is evidence from the universe that you are one step closer. 

You are meant to have this too! And yes you do have what it takes to achieve this!

Engage in this feeling within you. Just believe it and feel it within your soul that you are worthy, that you are deserving and that you do have what it takes to have everything that your heart desires. You just have to be willing to work for it.

We all have those hard days when we can’t be f$$$ed but this is the time when we have to get back up and prove to ourselves what we are capable of. That’s how you were led to read this because you know deep within yourselves that you are capable of so much more. 

You can do this! You do have what it takes to live the life that you dream of! 

With Love

Bx

You are not a failer!

We all go through our fair share of distrust that life will work itself out, that apparently all happens for a reason.

Even I have had feelings that everything seems to be a waste of time and that it doesn’t matter how much effort you put in with your life sometimes it just seems so damn hard.

Those feelings of disappointment and those feelings of not feeling like you are good enough are widely known. But when you fight through all those negative emotions it all somehow makes sense.

There are times when we all feel like we want to give in with life and stop trying. Everyone at some point in time deals with the exact same negative self-talk. There are times when you may put up your defences and prevent people or opportunities from entering your life or heart but remember that this is the stage that it is most important that you don’t give up.

This is the part when your strength of character really shows. This is when you overcome all that fear and push aside those barriers that you allow to hold yourself back. That's right. "Allow" is the key word here. Only you hold up those barriers so therefore only you,  being yourself, and only you can choose to put your shields down.

If you do happen to quit and give in then don’t get down on yourself for quitting or giving up. You don’t need to feel shame or embarrassment or disappointment because this is not you. You have not given up completely and you never will. Know that it is ok to temporally stop trying or to have a break from giving it your all. Know that this does not make you a failure. Do not make up stories inside your mind that you’re a failure because you temporally quit or have temporally given in. You deserve more love and respect than that.

Losing sight for a few days, weeks, or months, even years does not make you a failure.  A Failure is one that quits completely and that never looks back. But hear this and really take this in. Once your mind has been opened up to the possibilities of what is possible there will be something that inspires you to try again once more. You will find something that will remind you of the path that you were once on. There will be something that sparks that excitement and enthusiasm once more in your heart. You will never forget.

You don’t need to be your own worst enemy. Be aware of your negative comments of yourself. Your negative thoughts are nothing but made up stories that you have created yourself. Yes some may have been said to your face but they are not true. Design your own new story.

Remember why you started in the first place. Remember what your passion is and carry on following your dream.

With Love

B xx

Willpower is just another muscle.

Willpower is just another muscle that we need to practice using to make ourselves stronger in every way possible.

Willpower in my personal opinion is the main key to overcoming self sabotage of any sort. Today as we focus more on a health and food aspect. As in; over eating, not eating enough, not training or exercising when we know we should, not drinking enough water. We all have a basic knowingness within ourselves of what we should be doing or not be doing. We all have this knowingness to not eat certain unhealthy foods, or to eat healthy foods. Yes we are able to eat not so healthy foods in moderation however the trick is to practice your will power to ensure you eat in moderation and of course exercise for your health.

Now I don't believe in diets in any way at all. There is no quick fix to "be" healthy or slimmer. I do believe that we should listen to our own bodies and eat what's right for you and what makes you feel healthy inside. At the end of the day we are here for a life long journey so does it not make sense to eat real foods that fuel and nourish our body's to enable our longevity and provide us with energy and health.

So how do  we go from eating processed quick easy foods to only or mainly eating clean heathy foods? By practicing and using our willpower to do what's right for our bodies.



Willpower alike any muscles and alike our mental strength grows tired and weakens when we are tired or when we've had to practice using it to many times. This amazing audiobook below helped me a great deal with practicing will power
The-Science-of-Self-Discipline-Audiobook





Here are 5 Key Point's that help me


1. Get plenty of sleep.  If you've got an IPhone  set your bedtime reminder to get to bed on time. You need a decent amount of sleep so your brain can function properly and think clearly. Its on my days from lack of sleep that I'm more prone to mental weakness and prone to emotionally eating. Also get to bed at a decent time before your tummy starts rumbling again. If my tummy starts rumbling ill have a cup of tea to calm it.

2. Plan your meals for the day. Write down in a journal or diary a plan of your day and times of when you are going to eat. Then set timers in your phone of meal times. I also set my alarm to drink water if I keep forgetting

3. Feed yourself first. Before you make meals for your family, before you go to the shops if shopping, what ever you have to do, eat BEFORE you go so you are mentally ready and prepared. I feed myself before my children. (To some that may seem selfish but my children are old enough to explain that mummy is training for comp and that we don't want a hangry mum lol)  I never go to the shops or out anywhere hungry. I don't want to risk being hungry as when your hungry your brain power will weaken so its harder to remember to practice using willpower

4. Practicing using Willpower. This is just another muscle that gets stronger the more we use it. They discuss this in the above audiobook. That when you have an urge to eat something that you know you shouldn't that isn't in your meal plan just wait 10 minutes. Remind yourself to just wait 10  minutes. And yes you can do this and yes it does work and yes it does help. Demand of yourself to wait just 10 minutes, and that you are not going to die in 10 minutes if you don't eat right now. It works.

5. Be nice to yourself. Be your own best friend. You just need to be strong and be nice to yourself. Tell yourself something like 'good girl' or 'I'm proud of you' or ' I knew you could do it'. Talk to yourself as you would a little child or your own inner child. You have to literally talk yourself through it. Baby steps, one step at a time and winning against yourself one step at a time. The urge does pass and then go and make a healthy option to eat or have your planned meal.

Remember, that learning to use your Willpower is something that you must practice every day. Not just while you are learning but every day for a few months or even years until its a ground in habit that you never have to think about.

If you need more accountability ask friends or family to support you. Ask friends or even a stranger to join with you to exercise together.

Practicing willpower is not a chore. This is something that you are choosing to do. If you are reading this, there is a part of you that wants to be strong willed and craves discipline so as from right now just decide that 'I am dedicated to practicing my willpower every day'.

If you do mess up don't punish yourself. Forgive yourself and move on. Be nice to yourself, love yourself and be your own best friend. Remember that Willpower is something that you choose to practice so choose to love the journey. xx

Meditation is not what you think!

When you have so much going on in your head that you can’t think clearly.

When everything seems so hard and such a challenge, or even feels impossible.

This is when you need to clear your head and control your thoughts. But how?

Next time your mind is so incredibly busy write down all that you have to do. Or even all that you are thinking about or what you want to say to someone.

Work on getting out of the habit of keep thinking about things over and over and over. Practice being aware of your thoughts.
Write down what it is you need to say or do, just so you can stop thinking so much. This is such an easy technique to clear your mind.

Are you one of those that have trouble sleeping when you're laying there thinking instead?
Your bedside table is a handy place to keep a notepad and a pen so you can jot down everything that you need to just to clear your head. Even if a dream awakes you and you lay thinking about it. Jot it down and the way that you feel about it so you stop thinking about it.

It’s a fact the ‘writing crystallizes your thoughts’.

One of the best ways to clear your mind is to meditate.

When was the last time you meditated? Have you tried to meditate?

Now I hear you groaning. It’s not all like the movies crossing legs, thumb and index finger together resting on your crossed knees and humming to yourself. Well it can be that if that’s what you prefer.

Meditating can be done sitting on your lounge, lying in bed, sitting outside or sitting on the beach. Wherever that works for you and you feel comfortable with.

Meditation is not about trying to stop our thoughts and to stop thinking. We are all human after all. All you need to do is focus on counting or focus on your breathing or in this case we are going to focus on relaxing one part of our body at a time. If you lose focus or your mind wanders that is fine, simply start again.
There is no right or wrong way, all you need to do is start and with daily practice of even 5 or 10 minutes a day it does get easier. I promise you. Remember everything at some point starts meditation for the first time and yes it is difficult for everyone.

However, with practice and persistence it does get easier.

This technique should last for approx. 10 minutes and does absolute wonders to the function to your whole day. If you’re pressed for time set you timer to 10 minutes to allow yourself 10 minutes of quality meditation time. This way your not thinking about going over your allocated time limit.

Aim for at least 10 minutes a day. Really what is 10 minutes? For an easy meditation technique try this one. If it helps you too relax also light some candles, turn of the lights and put on some quite music.

Either lay down, if you can trust yourself to not fall asleep; or sit up straight, close your eyes and take 10 deep slow breaths concentrating on your inhaling and exhaling. This first part is the hardest part. Trying to get your mind to relax and let every other thought go. If thoughts come in just open your eyes take a breath then close your eyes to start counting again.

The idea is to stop thinking of everything else around us and to concentrate on our breathing.

When you are feeling completely relaxed working from your toes to your head, first feeling your feet take a deep breath in then while slowly exhaling pushing out any negative energy in your feet.

You may feel a slight tingling as your body is relaxing and the negative energy is being transferred out. Then taking a deep breath in feeling your lower legs exhale and push any negative energy out through your toes.
Now from your knees, take a deep breath in and again push any negative energy out. Continue this all the way to your head including your arms. Feel your whole body completely relaxed.

Now starting from 10 take a deep breath in then exhale feeling your body relax a little more. Work down to 1 feeling your body and mind completely relaxed.

Allow yourself however long you like in the meditated state. Then whenever you are ready begin to awaken yourself. To release your meditation state simple breathing with your counting, count from 10 to 1 feeling yourself awaken a little more each time until you are completely awake on 1 when you open your eyes.

Either use your meditated state to ‘Intentionally Dream’ (which is to feel the feelings and excitement of already obtaining your goals and desires) or/and use for quieting your mind simply for relaxing.

This is a simple but satisfying technique and once you get into a routine of meditation you will soon see that you cant live without it

Are you unworthy of Love?

If you are not getting what you want, you are out of harmony with what you say that you want.

You may say you want love but inside do you think or have thoughts that you don't deserve love or do you feel unworthy?
Do you see love or people in love and feel hatred and jealousy towards them?
I admit that even I used to look at other happy couples with hated. I remember walking my dog on the beach back in my single days and everywhere I looked I would see these couples holding hands and it would seriously piss me off that they were so damn happy and that I wasn’t.
Here I was, a single mum with 4 children and I was really starting to think that no one would want me because I had children and after a string of relationships that didn’t work out I seriously started to question, “what’s wrong with me?” I used to think I had some pretty good qualities and I thought I saw myself as wife material but after a few failed dates, failed relationships and a failed marriage, it all left me wondering that something has to be wrong with me.
Now when I look back I can see it’s because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted in a partner plus I was looking for a certain age and look. Funnily enough I wanted someone with no children at all as my previous partner very openly favoured his child and my children could see this.

So here’s my little story about how I met the man of my dreams, the perfect man for me
So after a few dates and seeing a couple of different guys an acquaintance told me in these exact words “Bridget, you have to stop being so fussy, you find something wrong with them all. Maybe you’ll just have to settle for the next one that comes along” With which I strongly disagreed and told her that I will never settle.
In that moment I just had this knowingness that I will find someone that is perfect for me, that loves my children as his own, that has his head screwed on, knows where he is going in life and treats me like an absolute queen that I deserve! In that moment something just clicked, I just knew that somewhere is the perfect man for me and for my life and when time is right he would come into my life.

Within a couple of days I came across a Louise Hay You Tube clip and learnt of an affirmation 'I am loved and I radiate love’ and I repeatedly thought it too myself the whole day, every day and every time that I thought of it. Within a couple of days I realised that I was being more loving towards my children and giving them way more random hugs than I usually do and that they were so much better behaved and helpful and loving. I then realised I started seeing signs of love and happy couples holding hands. Only now I was genuinely feeling happy for them and smiling to myself. This one affirmation changed everything.

Here’s the trick, don't look for your “ideal” partner, you are only looking for signs of love and suddenly as if by magic you will see love everywhere, such as......
Happy couples walking and kissing. "Feel" and be happy for them and know that now you are able to "see" love that you are so close to the universe to bringing yours to you. Random couple birds flying. Love heart pictures everywhere or heart shape clouds. I saw hearts and Love everywhere once I was open and wanting to see it. Now follow your instincts and your gut feelings. Also take this into consideration:
• Dress everyday like you could meet your future partner, look the part, smell the part. An acquaintance would tell me he wants love and is sick of being lonely while we went out for breakfast yet he sits with us which he looks unshaven for near on 2 weeks and visually looks and comes across unimpressed at life. Plus wearing scruffy clothes! How is that going to find you the partner of your dreams?
• Be the person you want to attract. Would you look twice at someone who walks out of house not brushing their hair and dressed all scruffy? No you wouldn't would you, dress to impress at the same level that you would expect of your ideal or potential partner.

Now here’s my favourite part to the story
Literally only 2 weeks after that conversation with my apparent friend telling me I should settle and only 2 weeks of repeating over and over to myself “ I am loved and radiate love” I had this random thought one night. I had this thought to jump into Tinder a dating site which my first thought was 'hell no'. Luckily I was quick to realise to follow the inspired thought. I have to admit it was the next night I signed up as the idea initially terrified me.
So very bravely I signed up and I wrote down exactly what I wanted and exactly who I am and I put down emojis for everything that I could think of. I figured that in real life I’m cheeky and playful in general so why not put that honesty in emoji form on my Tinder profile, and that’s what I did. I emoji’d that I have kids, that I’m a career business woman, that I run, lift weights and I even put on that I am looking for , emoji wedding chapel. Yes I did (emoji laugh cry face here). I figured this Tinder profile will make 99% of men run for their life but the one man I’m looking for will love it.

Literally the next day I had a Superlike and we were chatting by that night- online texting that evening. So in conversation we were chatting about what we were up to the next day and it turned out that we were both going to gym in my the morning. And naturally you ask, ‘ohh what gym do you go too?’ It turned out that we went to the exact same gym! Yes the exact same gym, and we had been going to the exact same gym for over a year and we had never bumped into each other as I went at approx. 5am -6 am and he would arrive for around 6 am as I was leaving. It also turned out that we always went to the same café, walked our dogs in the same area on the foreshore but we had never bumped into each other.
So anyhow we arranged to say hi at the gym that very next morning, ended up having coffee that day.
Within a month we were pretty much living together full time, at two months we got a new house together to start fresh. All from following my inner feeling/thought to try Tinder, which I thought was just a hook up site- it turns out not always lol

What I find amusing is that this guy was nothing that I was looking for and the hilarious part, considering I was looking for someone with no children, he actually came with 5 children. So here we are, now two years on with a lovely big blended family of 9 children, which I must add get on famously. Its funny how the universe works. I can honestly say that he is my best friend. I never thought I would find someone who is so compatible, I didn’t even think that what we have was even possible. So have trust that what you need, not what you want, will find you at the right time, once you learn to love ‘love’ and to trust your instincts and those inner feelings or ideas.

Also something else I feel I need to add in here. I have everything I want in a partner. And I believe that you too, by using this basic affirmation can find also find love, actually that was the easy part, however now that I have everything that I wanted I find myself sometimes self-sabotaging which is caused from inner feelings of not feeling like I deserve all that I have.

Please be aware of your self-sabotaging efforts. Luckily for me my partner can see and is aware of when I self-sabotage and is so incredibly patient with me. So remind yourself daily that you are deserving
I guess relationships and worthiness are similar to the shower quote of “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing. That’s why we recommend it daily”. So in this same instance, once you have your amazing relationship please remember to find daily gratitude and work on your worthiness so you keep your happiness.
Work on your worthiness daily.
You are worthy and you are deserving

So to summarise, repeat daily and all day to yourself;
“I am loved and radiate love” and “ I love and approve of myself”

Ohh and take him on date nights as well, show your man how much you appreciate him, men love to feel appreciated 😊